You don’t have to believe Taylor Swift is any sort of victim — at all — to think that it’s functionally impossible for a normie to casually date a person as famous as she is who handles the rest of her life the way she does. Yes, she could have someone smuggled in and out of her hotel in a laundry cart, she could decline to comment on her personal life, and she could decide not to share herself with her fans beyond what happens on stage. But that would be a reversal of her entire oversharing strategy, in which her friends are part of her persona and her broken heart is part of her persona. This is exactly how Taylor Swift would be behaving if she were in a fake relationship with Travis Kelce, sure. But this is also exactly how Taylor Swift would be behaving if she were in a real relationship with Travis Kelce.
She lives this way. She shows up at things. She is the most animated person in the audience at any awards show. Given all that, dating somebody who’s already famous is both the most strategic thing for her to do and the most sensible thing for her to do. (And listen, she’s almost six feet tall. Maybe she likes a tall guy and was intrigued by the fact that a 6’5″ football player wanted to give her a friendship bracelet.)
True love can be pretty boneheaded. Relationships that develop in the silliest of circumstances can thrive, and what circumstances we think of as silly can change. There was a time when the idea of connecting with somebody online was treated like an embarrassment; now, it’s completely standard. People stay together who make no sense on paper, and sometimes that’s beautiful, and sometimes it’s devastating. (As Brian Krakow said in the very last episode of My So-Called Life with the regrettable but common nihilism of teenagers, “If you, like, analyze why certain people end up with certain other people, it’ll make you want to kill yourself.”)
It doesn’t matter to anybody else’s life whether this relationship is real or not, nor is it something you can figure out from watching her watching him or watching them leave a football game together. Maybe it’s PR. Maybe it’s lust. Maybe it’s going to be over in a month. Maybe it’s going to last. Maybe she’s going to write a song someday heavily hinting that somebody who wore pads and a helmet betrayed her. It’s a weird and beautiful and ultimately unimportant thing: Who knows?
